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Psychologist Meppel
My name is Pauline and I work as a psychologist from my own practice in De Wijk, between Meppel and Hoogeveen.
When we have our lives nicely in order and have pleasant relationships with the people around us, we experience that we are doing well and feel happy.
But sometimes things go differently. There are situations when we feel dissatisfied and unhappy and don't quite know what to do. Help from family and friends is not always at hand or not sufficient. Temporary support from a psychologist can then be helpful.
In my practice I guide adults with individual and relational questions. Becoming aware of what is really going on, of wishes and desires, but also of assumptions and expectations, plays an important role during counseling sessions. Without awareness no real change.
In my practice I help people to better understand themselves, others and situations. This often takes courage. It takes courage to really see and accept yourself and others as you are and as they are, with all the pleasant and less pleasant sides. I like to help you understand yourself better so you can make new choices. I believe that you have everything you need to positively shape your life and your relationships with others.
Below are some symptoms in which I can help you. If you have a problem, question or complaint that is not listed, please do not hesitate to contact me. It is quite possible that I can still do something for you!
- Anxiety and social fears
- Uncertainty, assertiveness problems, low self-esteem
- Burnout, overworked
- Communication problems
- Concentration problems
- Depressive feelings
- loneliness
- Fear of failure
- Behavioral problems
- High sensitivity
- Midlife crisis
- Feeling uncomfortable
- Unpleasant childhood memories and experiences
- Restlessness
- Parenting questions and problems
- Becoming a parent
- Perfectionism
- Personal development and awareness
- Problems with social contacts
- Psychosomatic complaints
- Relationship problems
- Stress and tension
- Give meaning to life
Living wholeheartedly, how do you do that?
Do you also want to live wholeheartedly? Stop feeling inferior and small compared to others? Do you also want to feel satisfied and fulfilled instead of insecure, irritated and frustrated? Do you want to experience less stress, do you want to get rid of the feeling that you constantly “have” to do something? Do you find it frustrating that you experience problems in relationships with (dear) others?
Then become courageous, like many people before you!
Courageous people believe that they are capable of positive development and so are other people. They believe that people are never “finished” but always “developing". This helps them deal mildly and encouragingly with 'mistakes' of themselves and others.
Courageous people know they can always make new choices. They learn from what they do without feeling inferior.
As you become more courageous, you become more interested in the world around you. You become more active, dare to contribute more, and become more creative in finding opportunities and solutions. Courageous people bring out the best in themselves and others.
By acting courageously, you develop a positive and realistic sense of self.
Living courageously and wholeheartedly makes us feel better. We develop resilience and experience that we can always do something that is helpful. This makes us calmer inside.
During counseling sessions, the following components are covered:Analysis of your help question, your qualities and skills, your wants and needs and of the way you tend to react to (stressful) situations. We examine what you do to feel good and avoid pain. We do this gently and without judgment.
I assume that all of our behavior has a positive intention. People who keep quiet and withdraw during an altercation often do so because they don't want to make the situation worse. People who shout often do so because they want to connect with the other person but do not feel heard.
Acceptance of the situation. Acceptance of feelings, thoughts, behaviors, our own part in both successful and difficult situations. Accepting that we are sculptors of how we have come to think (unconsciously) about ourselves, others and the world around us. Accept that we have come to believe that this image we have created is true, familiar and normal. And that, as a result, we no longer see that things might be different and that we ourselves can be different.
Acceptance does not mean resignation. It means courageously and gently acknowledging our way of thinking, feeling and doing without judgment. That sets us straight psychologically. We no longer condemn ourselves (and others) but take responsibility for our way of reacting and for the consequences of our behavior. We realize that we are not victims of our circ*mstances but take back control of our lives and experience freedom: 'I can also choose differently'.
I assume that all of our behavior has a positive intention. People who keep quiet and withdraw during an altercation often do so because they don't want to make the situation worse. People who shout often do so because they want to connect with the other person but do not feel heard.
Adapting your behavior based on insights gained. You decide whether you want to change and in which direction. Together we explore helpful alternatives so you can courageously deal with your problems.
If you wish, we will make use of relaxation exercises, visualizations, the healing power of your breathing and useful tools to (come into) your power.
We do not always have influence on what happens to us, but we do have influence on the way we deal with it.
Take action by courageously practicing new behaviors. 'We make the road by walking, not only by talking.' Insights gained fade when they are not translated into behavior. After all, you can't cross the sea just by staring across the water. You practice by starting where you left off, by taking small achievable steps and consciously observing and appreciating your efforts and progress.
Warm regards,
Pauline
Qualifications and registrations
Education
Psychology Msc, Leiden University, 1989-1993.
HBO Social Work BSW, De IJsselpoort Kampen, 1981-1985.
Encouraging Trainer (personal development, parenting, relationship), ASIN Assen, 2005-2007.
EFT (basic) Therapist and EFT Trainer, Foundation EFT Netherlands Nieuwegein, 2013-2014.
Breath coach, Herleva Almere, 2015
Boundary Based Awareness Coach and Counselor (BBACC), Ik-grensbewustzijn Nederland, 2016-2017
Self-Boundary Awareness Trainer (SBAT), Ik-grensbewustzijn Nederland, 2017-2019.
In addition to the above trainings, I attend annual peer and continuing education courses on various topics, such as:
Behavior Modification, by GZ-psychologist and Behavior Therapist Martin Appelo
Narcissism, also by Martin Appelo (therapist, coach, teacher, speaker and writer)
Self-compassion and self-confidence, by Dr. Elke Seets (lecturer in Psychology at Maastricht University)
Emotions, by Dr. Ursula Oberst (psychotherapist and lecturer in Psychology at the University of Barcelona)
Shaping Your Lifestyle: working creatively with childhood memories, also by Dr. Ursula Oberst
Relationship Therapy, by Terry Real (internationally recognized family therapist, speaker and best-selling author)
Social Equality, by Marion Balla (co-director of Adler School of Professional Psychology in Toronto Canada, counselor, therapist, consultant, trainer, lecturer Summerschool IcassiCase conceptualization, by Dr. John Sperry (lecturer in Mental Health and Counseling, Lynn University, Florida, USA)
Registrations
I am affiliated with the Nederlandse Federatie Gezondheidszorg (the NFG) and the umbrella organization Nederlandse Associatie voor Psychotherapie (NAP) .
NFG registration number: 6628
NAP registration number: 240028
I am also registered at the Chamber of Commerce
Chamber of Commerce: 92637965
I offer therapy in
- ✓ Dutch
- ✓ English
- ✓ German
Specialisations
I am at my best when guiding people who want to develop and are motivated to self-reflect. even when they are bothered by the behavior of others. After all, we can only directly influence our own behavior and our own way of perceiving, thinking and feeling.
'Learning to listen to understand, rather than listening to react' (to yourself and others) is an important part of counseling.
So are you curious and dare to look in the mirror and meet yourself? Do you dare to experiment and come out of your own bubble? You are most welcome in my practiceFor example, when you are dealing with:
- overtiredness, overworkedness, insufficient resilience;
- loss of zest for life, dejection, numbness, emptiness;
- feelings of anxiety (fear of failure, social anxiety), insecurity;
- feelings of sadness, dejection
- dissatisfaction, irritation and anger or distrust
- numbness, inability to be compassionate and empathetic;
- destructive thoughts and behavior patterns;
- high sensitivity, high sensitivity;
- adjustment problems;
- problems with autonomy, inability or doubt to consciously direct your own life;
- assertiveness problems;
- not feeling seen, not feeling heard, not feeling like you belong;
- low self-esteem; feelings of inferiority;
- identity questions (who am I, what do I want);
- experiencing inner dissatisfaction;
- conflicts with other people;
- problems in setting and monitoring your own boundaries;
- problems accepting other people's boundaries;
- life's questions, questions concerning the meaning of life;
- work-related problems;
- relationship problems (partner, children, parents, family, friends);
- questions about upbringing, parenting problems, parenting;
Most common issues I support people with:
The most commonly treated complaints in my practice are:
- Identity questions, uncertainty, anxiety
- Emotional reaction to situations
- Overstrain, fatigue
- Relationship problems (with partner, children, family, colleagues)
- Sense of purpose, bore out, doubt
Therapies offered
- ✓ Body-oriented therapy
- ✓ Coaching
- ✓ Couples counselling
- ✓ Couples Therapy
- ✓ Life coaching
- ✓ Mindfulness
- ✓ Psychotherapy
- ✓ Relationship Counselling
- ✓ Relationship Therapy
- ✓ Talking therapies
Areas of counselling I can help with
- ✓ Anxiety
- ✓ Being a perfectionist
- ✓ Being assertive
- ✓ Bullying
- ✓ Burnout
- ✓ Career challenges
- ✓ Communication
- ✓ Self confidence
- ✓ Fear
- ✓ Loneliness
- ✓ HSP - highly sensitive person
- ✓ Insecurity
- ✓ Life-meaning questions
- ✓ Loss of meaning
- ✓ Low self esteem
- ✓ Panic attack
- ✓ Parenting
- ✓ Performance anxiety
- ✓ Relationship fights
- ✓ Relationship issues
- ✓ Setting boundaries
- ✓ Social phobia
- ✓ Stress
- ✓ Work-related issues
- ✓ Workplace stress
- ✓ Worrying too much
Fees
Rates
For individual therapy per 1-hour session I charge €85.00 and for 1.5-hour sessions €115.00. For a one-time consultation and an intake interview the same rate applies.
For couples therapy / counseling with 2 persons I charge €85,00 per session of 1 hour and €115,00 for sessions of 1.5 hours.
Appointments are made in consultation. It is possible to cancel or change an appointment free of charge up to 48 hours in advance. If an appointment is cancelled or changed within 48 hours, without an emergency, I will charge 50% of the cost of the invoice. For a forgotten appointment, I charge the hourly rate.
Reimbursem*nt
A large number of health insurance companies reimburse individual therapy sessions in whole or in part up to a certain maximum. The reimbursem*nt depends on your policy and additional insurance.
On the website of the NFG (www.de-nfg.nl/vergoedingen), you can find a document in which you can look up whether you qualify for reimbursem*nt.
Relationship therapy is not reimbursed by health insurance companies.
Availability (Opening hours)
| Monday | 8.30 - 17.30 |
| Tuesday | 14.00 - 17.30 |
| Wednesday | 8.30 - 17.30 |
| Thursday | 8.30 - 12.00 |
| Friday | 8.30 - 12.00 |
| Saturday | closed |
| Sunday | closed |
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